#TBT Post: Transformation: the Part No One Tells You About… (A Piece of the Puzzle We do Not Address Enough)

What do you deserve?

A recent Mark’s Daily Apple post “Entitled to Sabotage” has got people talking about lip service vs. real, sustainable change.  He discusses the phenomenon of “treat” becoming a verb instead of a noun in one’s life, surrendering accountability for health choices to some vague power outside oneself.

Too many people pay lip service to getting healthy, and do exactly as Mark describes, sabotaging themselves and not really changing their behaviors.  I’ve been pondering this a lot lately: Why are permanent lifestyle changes are so hard – especially for women? I believe it has to do with the change in social dynamics in your circles when you make that change.

I think this change in social dynamics is the BIGGEST obstacle people face in adopting the Paleo lifestyle.  Tara Grant said it so well in an interview for PaleoNonPaleo, how people change when you do.  How you lose friends because you’re no longer convenient to be around. How they feel uncomfortable because your success brings their choices into greater focus – and they don’t like what they see.  It’s really disconcerting and something you aren’t prepared for when you start such a journey.  Jealousy and sabotage abounds. It goes on and on, and many people just don’t have the fortitude to withstand the pressure to conform. So they fall off the wagon.

Orleatha Smith had this to say in her interview for PaleoNonPaleo: “I’m really glad that you asked this question because I never imagined that anyone would have a negative reaction to my weight-loss. I went from 260lbs to 135lbs so I’ve lost 125lbs. I also lost almost every ‘close’ girlfriend I had when I was obese. I remember sitting on my couch crying because my friends had yet another girl’s night without me – of course Facebook tells all.”

It’s true that your entire circle of friends changes when you make a big lifestyle change like getting healthy, losing weight, quit smoking, drinking, or whatever.  Mine is now much, much smaller and those friends are all newly-found.  I still have a number of “frenemies” that I interact with, and I always have to remind myself that anything I say can and WILL be used against me.  Learned that one the hard way a few times. So sad, but true.  

Women have this strange reaction to others’ success or good fortune.  They see another woman and say “I hate her!” in envy, rather than recognizing they really want to BE her and do something about it.  Anything worth having takes hard work and/or hard choices.  Our health is no different.

So how do we deal with this?
By remembering why we embarked on this journey to begin with – our health and that of our closest loved ones.  Be strong.  Make conscious, intentional choices and have faith.

While I have grieved the loss of many a friend this past year, I gained so much more instead.  General contentment.  No more physical pain and suffering.  Renewed vitality in my marriage.  More energy to keep up with my child – and the knowledge that I will likely be around a lot longer to teach him and see him grow up!

The benefits of this Paleo lifestyle are worth so much more than the sacrifices.  To feel good physically and emotionally, to look good and have more confidence overall, to receive positive attention from others and have the knowledge you can give your best to your family.  It’s totally worth it.  And so are YOU.

 

#TBT: I will NEVER go back to “BEFORE”!

#TBT – My Story for those who have not read it.

 

I will NEVER go back to “BEFORE”!!

It all begins with this story...

It all begins with this story…

RobbWolf.com Testimonial: BEFORE

I Will NEVER Go Back To “Before”!!

Monday, November 5th, 2012

Written by: Pamela

I developed Hashimoto’s (autoimmune) Hypothyroidism and was searching for a way to relieve the symptoms. I had suffered significant weight gain, severe fatigue, hormonal imbalance, sleep issues, and pain in my joints, muscles – essentially all over.  My doctors were of very little help beyond initial diagnosis and prescribing Levoxyl.  The medication helped, but only a little.

I read a number of success stories online and was very inspired by them.  I had incredible motivation in the form of a young child that needs me that made me determined.

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BEFORE

So in September 2011, I decided to give Paleo a go – and WOW did it work!  And it was not nearly as difficult as I imagined it would be!

Robb’s revelation that my gallbladder removal indicated undiagnosed celiac disease (p. 81 “Full of Bile” in The Paleo Solution) was very powerful.  My surgeon told me I nearly died during that operation at the age of 27.  If I had only known!  I am not exaggerating when I say this information saved me.  I’ve had a few close calls in my life that can now be attributed to gluten/celiac issues: nearly ruptured appendix, serious complications during gallbladder surgery, miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, and Hashimoto’s (autoimmune) Thyroiditis.

In addition to the Paleo dietary recommendations, I also avoid dairy and nightshades due to my autoimmunity.  I also follow(ed) recommendations from GAPS (bone broth, probiotics, etc) in the healing process.  My exercise consists of walking my dog and house/yard work.

I no longer suffer.  I look and feel great at 60+ lbs less than my heaviest/sickest point.  I went from a size 16 to an 8 in one year; I look 10 years younger with my hair color/texture returning.  Additional benefits:  no body odor (I now use magnesium oil as my “deodorant”) and dramatic improvement in my mood, hormonal balance, and marriage!  I am 45 years old, 5’10” tall, size 6/8, and weigh just under 160 lbs.

I will NEVER go back to “before”!!

Many, many thanks and much love to Robb Wolf, Mark Sisson, Tara Grant and the online Paleo community for showing me the way to heal(th)!!  I truly owe them my life.

Pamela

 

AFTER

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Christopher Williams (a.k.a. Squatchy) is a paleo aficionado, educator, personal trainer, wellness coach, and hobbyist chef. He also works as part of the Robb Wolf team.

Pamela

November 8, 2012 at 8:08 am
Thanks, Everyone!

I submitted this story in hopes that it will help others – both by inspiring some to try Paleo, and to encourage others to keep on. One day at a time – it all starts somewhere!

I am incredibly grateful to Robb for sharing his work with us! His insights about autoimmunity were key to my recovery. At one point before diagnosis, I was so sick I could barely eat. I knew I was in big trouble, but had no idea what was happening. I hate to think where I would be if I hadn’t discovered Paleo. A very scary thought, indeed.

So, kudos to all of you living the lifestyle – and pass it on! There are far too many people suffering needlessly.

:) Pamela


29 with 19 Years’ Experience

Happy Birthday Meme

Somehow, I don’t think 48 candles will fit on a gluten-free birthday cake as they tend to be on the small side. LOL

I certainly don’t feel this old.  How did that happen?!
Thank goodness for living Paleo.  It has given me a new life full of energy.

So grateful for all the blessings I have in my life on my 48th birthday.  :)

Bread. Really.

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Attended the Gluten Free Food Allergy Fest last Saturday in Minneapolis and was treated to all kinds of gluten-free food samples, ranging from sweets to savories.

Among the many booths, a few really stood out for us.  We really enjoy Kinnikinnick treats, and they did not disappoint.  Samples of their donuts were like bits of heaven, as moist and tender as the regular kind – maybe even moreso!  The big guys Enjoy Life, Glutino Coconut Bliss and So Delicious all had yummy snacks to offer, and Grandpa’s Farm Organics was a surprise local (MN) favorite.

Living Paleo, we don’t eat many of the GF substitutes because grains are not nutrient-dense.  They’re just “filler foods” and may even contain anti-nutrients.  But.  Sometimes you just have a craving or want to fit in.  Enter bread…the one food item that is so very difficult to replace.

Thanks to Three Bakers, our search is over!  Wow.  Their white bread is just like the “real” thing.  Luckily our local co-op carries it, so we are in business!  The trade-off is that the loaves are smaller than in pre-celiac days.  But hey – who cares?!  My kiddo can now sometimes have a tasty sandwich in his lunch box, just like the other kids.  Love it.

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As an aside, it was also fun to meet Erica Dermer of Celiac and the Beast  and Gina Passantino of DairyFreeGina in person!  See you next time!